Like her on-screen persona, Phyllis, soap star Michelle Stafford will do what’s best for her kids. Life recently showed her that decisions that parents make aren’t always easy ones!
In a social media post, Stafford shared with her followers the news that her beloved Golden Retriever, Beauregard (aka “Beau”), had passed away. The mother of two put some thought in how to present this news to her kids.
“I knew this day was coming soon,” Stafford wrote. “I was thinking of not telling my kids and just going this alone.”
The actress didn’t want her children to feel the pain or be sad over Beauregard not being there more, but then decided it was better to involve them in the process.
“…I did think it would ultimately be wrong to not let my kids say goodbye to him, pain or no pain. Pain & loss are funny things. None of us wanna feel it but it truly is inevitable. We seem 2b living in a world these days of feeling wronged 2 feel pain or loss or sadness.”
Stafford says daughter Natalia was quite upset. The family told Beau that he was the best boy in the world and they thanked him for protecting them. A service was held for the beloved family pet in their backyard.
When Stafford’s daughter Natalia drifted off to sleep that night, Stafford says, she said, “I’m glad for Beau, that he’s out of pain.”
To read Stafford’s complete thoughts on this, read the full Instagram post below. Soap Hub sends sincere condolences to Stafford on the loss of her beloved Beauregard.
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Warning… obnoxiously long post. Today we said good bye to this good boy. I knew this day was coming soon. I was thinking of not telling my kids and just doing it alone. Not giving them a chance to say good bye. After all, they ceased 2 give him the attention they once had & I thought it was a better idea 2 tell them when they noticed he wasn’t around. “Oh, he passed on. But he is in a better place now”. That’s what we say, right? “He’s in a better place”. Truth be told, I didn’t want my kids 2b sad. Or feel pain. I wanted to make it easy for them. That’s my job as a parent. I suppose. Then I realized that my daughter would use that against me in years to come…right? “You just killed Beauregard with out letting me say goodbye”, she would probably say as a sassy 15 year old. Since I am not interested in giving my daughter ammunition against me… I decided to tell her what was going to happen to Beau. I’m joking but I did think it would ultimately be wrong to not let my kids say goodbye to him, pain or no pain. Pain & loss are funny things. None of us wanna feel it but it truly is inevitable. We seem 2b living in a world these days of feeling wronged 2 feel pain or loss or sadness. Or we pop a pill to “fix” it. Pain is a part of life. Honestly, how can we measure joy correctly if we haven’t felt sadness? So, my daughter was quite upset. We said good bye & told Beau he was the best boy in the world & thanked him 4 protecting us. We wished him well on his next adventure. I told Natalia it was important 2 tell him what a good boy he was. She did. J too. I listened as Natalia cried (keeping my composure) after all he had been my dog for 15 years. But our kids pick up on our emotions & copy us. I just wanted 2b there 4 her. I let her do whatever she wanted so we did a little funeral in the backyard. As we got ready 4 bed tonight she said “I’m glad for Beau, that he’s out of pain”… I don’t know if she would have come 2 that if I had chose not 2 tell her. Life is up & down & we gotta be willing 2 feel it all to really live it. We gotta let our kids feel it 2. Thank U Beauregard 4 teaching me a valuable lesson. You truly are THE BEST BOY IN THE WORLD❤️🐶👑